By John Blumberg, Andersen Alumnus and author of Return On Integrity (www.BlumbergROI.com)
G. Blumberg is an Andersen Alumni, a national speaker and author of several
books. His books are available on Amazon and at major bookstores. You can
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can still remember my first drive across the desert. It was part of an
adventurous road trip with two college buddies in the heat of a summer where
the temperatures were reaching degrees that, in my young life, I had not
imagined possible. It was long before the days of cell phones and internet
where you learned new things real-time and not on a screen.
were the road signs reminding you to fill-up your gas tank due to the log gaps
between civilization. No doubt, high temperatures and long gaps were a bad
combination with an empty tank and no cell phone. Things can become very real,
very quickly. One of the new experiences, I remember most, seemed to fill every
mile along those desert roadway gaps.
And it wasn’t real at all.
was the mirage – a visual reality that exists only as a perception. The desert
heat, fueled by the relentless sun’s rays along the endless pavement, created
images so real you knew you would soon reach them if you just kept driving. The
mirage is an illusion – that only seems real from a distance. You can drive forever,
using all of your precious fuel and never get there. Eventually, the sun just
beyond those desert roadways, we speed along high-capacity freeways packed with
the technology of virtually no gaps at all. This drive also has its own set of
is one of them.
with exponentially increasing capabilities, harnessing control can seem so
close – so achievable. We can see it in the near distance as we accelerate on
final approach to grab ahold of it. Unfortunately, this phantasm of control
isn’t real. It only appears to be reachable. And so, we can waste a lot of
energy in trying to get there. This is true in organizations of most every size
in most any context — and it is true in our communities, our families and most
certainly in our own personal life.
draw to the fantasy of control can be driven by a number of reasons. Sometimes
control comes from a desire for power and other times to ease a fear — often
two sides of the same coin. The greatest deception is that our draw is most
often driven from the best of intentions.
is a big difference between irresponsibly being out-of-control and the
assumption that you are in control. One is dangerous, yet both are wasteful.
One is done out of no intention and the other is done with great intention. One
spirals downward while the other goes in circles with an allusion of progress.
Yet, neither get us anywhere useful.
concept of control certainly has its place. You want to control the car you are
driving. You want the pilot to control the plane in which you are flying. Yet,
even then, we certainly know that this control has its own aspect of
or unknowingly, striving for control is much like driving towards the mirage.
While your control appears close and real, it never is. The only thing that’s
real is the constraint the striving for control places on you. Accepting that
you are not in control loosens these constraints.
imagine how much of our energy and resources are used in trying to control what
is not controllable. In many cases it nurtures a negative energy. This is just
as true in the culture of organizations as it is in the relationships within
our own lives. In trying to control, we create resistance – whereas in letting
go of our illusion of control, we free-up resources for creation. We begin to
reveal what is genuine and authentic – where responsible choices come
feel very different than invitation. It is why genuine love, respect and
gratitude unleash an endless energy without ever depleting themselves. Their
energy has no need for control. They show-up for whatever conditions may be.
The truth is that when we stay focused on the mirage – we miss the unique beauty of the desert through which we are traveling. No question, sometimes there are long gaps — what if we filled them with love, respect and gratitude? I have no doubt that organizational cultures, and personal relationships alike, would no longer show a need for control. We would simply be grateful for what they have become as we travel through them.